Go dating just friends
Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.
There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.
You’ve hooked up several times a week for several months; you like him and he likes you back.
But you might be starting to wonder: Are you just friends, or are you in a relationship? On one hand, having dinner sounds a lot like a date! On the other hand, haven’t you had dinner with lots of friends? When he leaves in the morning, he sighs, “You’re so great.” Hmm. On one hand, he likes you and he’s confident enough with your relationship to tell you so.
The same study revealed 11 percent of survey respondents were in a sexual relationship that did not involve cohabitation.
Can a casual sexual relationship exact an emotional toll?
Indeed, many surrendered to that lure in actuality: 36 percent of female respondents (but, surprisingly, just 21 percent of the men) had spent a night with an old flame, typically at a class reunion.
Further evidence of Roving Eye Syndrome came from a study of sexuality in the United States commissioned by AARP in 2009: It found that 6 percent to 8 percent of singles age 50 and up were dating more than one person at a time.
That doesn't mean all casual lovers feel emotionally bereft in the wake of a purely physical rendezvous, mind you.
Here’s how to know if you guys are a “thing,” or just hanging out all of the time in an intimate and emotional friendship with sex: Last week, you grabbed a quick dinner with him. Why would you think this man — who is attracted to you — may want to be more than just friends? He clearly just likes you, wants to eat by you and enjoy your company, then later wants to smash his face into yours. It’s awesome that he’s complimentary and bold enough to tell you how he feels. On the other hand, he probably says this to his guy friends all the time, and so he probably does just want to be friends.
It’s strange you got so worked up over this total friendzone compliment.
But then it gets you thinking: You're single, too — what could be so bad about a casual night in bed with someone you like but don't love?
For 50-plus types unwilling to walk — possibly rewalk — the path that leads to romance, rings and relocation, the prospect of a "friend with benefits" is looking less and less like a millennial indulgence."Don't book the church yet, Mom — it was just a hookup!