The set of associations for a white guy, for instance, heavily influence how he is perceived, what scripts he received on how his sexuality should work, and so on.When he is doing visibility work, it’s easier for him to present a “queer” topic — — to a mainstream audience because he’s seen as a nonthreatening “everyman.” However, he is conscious that his position as a figurehead of asexuality can give the impression that asexuality is a “white” identity and that he might be alienating asexual people of color. To claim sexuality is to claim a certain kind of power.What it means for someone to think of themselves as asexual is very different for people of different socioeconomic, racial, and ethnic groups – especially those that are already marginalized Much of the language of the asexual community is geared toward people says David, and the community has continued on a trend of racial homogeneity.As the community moves from online to offline organizing, he has seen an upward trend in ethnic and racial diversity, which he suspects is related to the expansion of options for diverse spaces and diverse ways of participating in the community.He doesn’t feel that it’s wise or healthy to enter into a relationship with a preconceived idea of how that relationship might go.It’s better to see how you connect, how you can interact with each other.
In the last ten years, there has been a growing awareness that some people don’t want or need sex to live happy and fulfilled lives.The first person I interviewed was Gaia Steinberg, 24, from Israel. She’s an activist in the feminist, sex-positive, and asexual communities. He has been in a leader and activist in asexual community for ten years, was active in campaigns to take asexuality out of the DSM, and was featured in the documentary Asexual people are not a monolith, but I asked Gaia and David to tell me about their own experiences with the community as a whole and their own personal understanding of dating while asexual.